Some couples are just not meant to be. We’ve all been there ourselves or seen friends stuck in a relationship that isn’t healthy for either person involved. The question is: When do you know when it’s time to call it quits? Here are a few obvious signs that you and your partner need to take a permanent break.
1. One of you is trying to change the other
While there’s no such thing as the perfect partner, if you created a laundry list of things you’d like your significant other to change about themself, this might be a sign that your relationship is just not going to work out.
2. You only see each other when you want to be intimate.
3. You spend more time with your Netflix account than you do with each other
If you or your partner are opting to watch to binge watch on a different show every night instead of actually spending time with each other, this could be sign that your relationship might not be your top priority.
4. Your partner’s quirks have gone from quirky to irritating
Sure, you used to think your partner’s tendency to chew too loud was once a lovable quirk, but now it’s making you lose your appetite. Why is it suddenly getting on your nerves? This is clearly an indication that you’re looking for reasons to dislike your partner. This is also a sign that you should probably break up.
5. Your relationship is not going anywhere
Are you at the same place emotionally that you were 5 years ago? If one of you is afraid to take your relationship to the next level, this is likely a sign they’re in denial about their lack of commitment. If you find your partner avoiding things like introducing you to their friends or family, talking about the future, you might want to consider calling it quits.
6. One of you is still hung up on their ex
If your partner is always bringing up their ex, it’s clear that they have not emotionally moved on. No relationship can survive if someone is still living in the past. If this is the case with your partner, it’s time to break up. You deserve more.
7. You’ve broken up once and gotten back together multiple times
Albert Einstein famously said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” This definitely applies to relationships. While many couples break up and get back together again, if you’ve broken up more than once, this might be a sign that the two of you were just not meant to be.
8. You’ve become a bitter person
In a healthy relationship, you and your partner will bring out the best in each other. If you’re finding yourself angry and bitter all the time, this might just be an indication that there’s something—or someone—in your life that needs to change.
9. Your partner isn’t first person you want to share good news with
10. You’re embarrassed by your partner
Are you hesitant to introduce your partner to your family and friends? Whatever the reason may be, it could be a sign that you’re not completely comfortable being with your partner. If one person in the relationship feels like they’re settling, this definitely means you should be up.
11. You don’t trust your partner
Are you constantly asking your partner who’s texting them? Are you often wondering what they’re doing when they’re out at night? If you’re questioning your partner’s fidality, it probably means you don’t trust them. If you don’t trust your partner, it’s game over for your relationship.
12. Most of your friends don’t like your partner
If you’ve been dating your partner for a while and the majority of your friends aren’t fans of your partner, maybe they’re trying to tell you something? If this is the case, it might be time for you to step outside of your relationship to try to see what your friends are seeing that you don’t.
13. Your partner is always asking you why you’re upset when you’re not
Many times if you’re in a relationship that just isn’t working, your partner knows the writing is on the wall even before you do. Knowing things are not all well within your relationship, you’ll notice that your partner will be always wanting to know how you’re feeling. Take this constant interrogation as proof that your relationship is likely on some shaky ground.
14. You often threaten to break up
If you find yourself threatening to break up with your partner if they do something you don’t like, this is definitely a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
15. You start to picture your future without your partner
If you find yourself starting to picture your life without factoring your partner in it, then this might be a sign that your goals and your partner’s are not exactly aligned with each other.