Everyone wants to hear those three simple words – I Love You. But saying them can sometimes be more difficult than we think. What if the person we say it to doesn't say it back? What if you say it the wrong way and sound like a rambling fool? What if you sound needy? While marriage and relationship experts agree that it's important to communicate love to our partners, many of us don't know how to do it the right way. You should remember that variety is key. Saying 'I Love You' is great, but there are several more things you can do and say to make your partner feel extra special. After all, sometimes actions speak louder than words. Below are some tips to help you sweep the love of your life off their feet and make them know they are your one and only.
Nothing says I love you more than a spontaneous token of appreciation. Try sending your partner flowers or chocolates during the day or send a simple note saying why you appreciate them in your life. If you're grocery shopping, pick up something you know he or she will like and bring it home. It will show that you are thinking of them even when they aren't around.
You may be the designated cook in the home while your partner may have assumed the role of “taker outer of the stinky garbage.” Why not mix it up? Take over the cooking duties one night when she isn't expecting it. Do a load of laundry. Or plug your nose and take out the garbage before he gets a chance to.
Saying I love you without showing it isn't a great combination. Physical touch can show your partner how much you need them and want them. While it is often hard to even think about sex after a long day of work and family life, it's necessary to think about your partner and what they may need. Try to find a compromise that works for you both. Take time to be alone and make them feel special and wanted. Try going to bed at the same time and waking up together at the same time so you feel a part of each others night and morning.
It's important to not only be in love but to be each other's friend. Try connecting with one another during an activity that you both enjoy. Take an exercise class together. Join a golf club. Or simply go for a nice, relaxing walk after work or dinner. Spending quality time together is just as important in a relationship as saying “I love you” because it shows that you want to spend time – quality time – with your partner.
Make sure you focus and notice your partner's mood. If they seem upset, tell them you've noticed and ask if they want to talk about it. Talk about your day together and, during your work day, tell them you look forward to seeing them in the evening. When you let them know you miss them you are showing that you care about them and are focused on only them.
We all know that parenting is one of the biggest challenges we face. When you see your partner connecting with the children in a caring and compassionate way, the love you feel is overwhelming. So be the best parent you can be and make sure you tell your partner how great of a parent you think they are. There really is no better compliment than being told you're doing a good job as a parent. Knowing you appreciate that will show how much you love them.
A study actually found that on Saturday nights at 10 p.m. is when people are most likely to say “I love you” to their partner. So if you're feeling the love this coming weekend why not try saying it in a different language – it could be sweet and sexy all at the same time. In French say “Je t'aime.” In Spanish try “Te quiero.” The romantic Italian language suggests “Ti amo” and in German try “Ich liebe dich.”
For men, showing love is not always an easy task. Women like to talk about their feelings and lay everything out on the table for discussion. But men, well, they just don't work the same way we do. If your man kisses you with passion – long and deep and sexy – than you can be sure that's his way of saying he loves you. And if he smiles afterwards you can tell that he's truly into you.
When you listen to your partner – truly listen – it shows that their feelings are important to you. Lean in closer when your partner is talking about important topics and join in on the conversation. Show them how much their words mean to you and how you admire their opinions.
If you are proud to be with the one you love you will want to hold their hand in public and show the world that they are yours. Try occasionally squeezing their hand while you are holding it, whether you are out for a walk alone or out with a group of friends. It's a very romantic and cute way to say I love you and that you're happy to have them around.